Open letter to Chance Carter and The Diamonds from a former Diamond.
Note from Tyler May: Let me first say, everything I’m going to say in this blog post is gathered by witness portrayal and opinion. Like everything I’ve ever discussed in my blog, it is my personal opinion. The letter is written by a former member with my help. I’m simply an avenue to get it public. Thank you for sharing this with us. PS: Yes, I added pics for flash 😉
It’s been over a week since Chance Carter was removed from Amazon for breach of contract and violating their services. His group, Chance Carter Diamond group, has been a mecca for his followers for over a year. The group is 4000+ women strong. That is important to understand. ALL, at least by profile name and picture, are women. Before his removal, the group seemed to be active with daily “love chats” where the women listened to Chance talk about anything and everything for close to an hour.
The last few “love chats” has been him pleading with his followers to email Amazon for reinstatement of his books, blaming other authors for his removal and a bunch of “not me” innuendos. He has failed to yet take any responsibility for his actions or part in his removal. His finger pointing is long and claims a bit repetitive. This is what made me search for more answers.
With the “not me” juvenile stance he was standing by, I went to twitter, social media, and amazon with an open mind to do my own research. And I can say with 100% certainty that Chance did violate Amazon. He was wrong and the fact that he is so blatantly lying to us hurts. I trusted this man. He made me feel special. He gave me attention no other man ever did. I’m sick to my stomach knowing now it was all for his gain. I can’t help but wonder if he got off on our devotion.
Since he’s left our group high and dry, I’m left with so many more questions. He hasn’t even been a man and stepped up to address the matter with us. He said we were friends, sometimes family. We were HIS group, loyal and true. But he’s gone, unwilling to face the mistakes like a true person. I defended him, even reported people who were bad mouthing him. It was what I thought was right at the time because how could a man I fell to trust, even love in a platonic way, do the horrible things these people were saying. I was mindlessly a puppet for him, for his PA.
Not anymore. I’m not using my name because I’m scared of the backlash. The women in his group are very loyal. I’m scared. I’m scared for them because they refuse to see the human side of the person we address as our king diamond.
It breaks my heart to see these women hungry for answers and being ignored. We deserve answers. We deserve the truth. But we’ve so manipulated, even the truth wouldn’t satisfy the women who are 100% loyal. I’ve heard many remarks saying we’re “brainwashed” or the group was a “cult.” I can say, I feel it and I don’t feel safe anymore.
I was always raised that everyone is entitled to their opinion. In the group, we’re not. We either support Chance and believe blindly since he’s unwilling to give us answers or we’re shunned. We can’t question without being attacked. Well, I’m not stupid. I’m an educated woman who believes in truth and proof. Since Chance was unwilling, I had to go find that on my own. I’m glad I did.
Please, Diamonds, you are my friends. I have grown to love you. I want to see you safe. I have not left the group yet only because I’m holding onto hope that the friends I’ve made will see the truth. I want to be there to support them. Please reach out of the group, educate yourself and you’ll see that Chance not only lied but he did do the things these people are saying. Please do this. But most of all, be safe. Don’t be puppets.
Thank you for your time
Okay, that is the end of her letter. I did help with some phrasing and structure but left it close enough to her original. For her safety, I am keeping it anonymous until she makes the choice to claim it. Being scared is a terrible place to be. It’s very much an abusive mentality, and personally, I hate seeing this happen.
I wrote a book about a man who was abused by his husband. I have several true accounts in the book, and although this case is much different it has the same abusive mannerisms. Mental and emotional abuse (manipulation) is sometimes worse than a fist coming at you. I’ve often been told bruises and scratches heal, but the words and actions say in the mind torturing them.
This isn’t right. This shouldn’t be happening in 2018. Women shouldn’t be calling a man king, nor should they feel that he is the only one who treats them human.
Here are four signs that you’re being manipulated. Then you can take from it what you’d like.
- They try to confuse you with their “expert knowledge.”
- They to pressure you into making decisions.
- They guilty you into doing things for them. Use their power to do this.
- They get angry, ignore or emotionally hurt you.
This is not to rattle the already unstable waters of #tiffanygate. It is hopefully to help people realize what Chance’s silence is doing to these women.
I, as a woman, am very disgusted by this. I want nothing more than to see strong, independent women who doesn’t need a man to tell them what to do.
My heart goes out to the diamonds. Having someone who makes you feel good and loved and special is a wonderful thing, and it can help you get through some really tough times. But when that person does it in order to manipulate you and use you, well, there should be a unique ring of hell for that kind of person. Maybe one lined with sharp diamond shards.
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Caitlyn Lynch, Author (@caitlynlynch6) said:
(Addressing the letter writer, who I hope comes here to read the comments).
I’m so sorry this was done to you and the other women who believed in Chance Carter. I want you to know that it was not your fault. Every day, women fall for the lies of men who are expert at manipulating emotions to get what they want from you. It’s always, and only ever, the fault of the abuser.
If you need someone to talk to, you can reach out to me too and I’ll be glad to listen. I wish you the very best in the future; trustworthy and decent people to follow and listen to, and wonderful books to read and enjoy.
Sending you a virtual hug of sympathy,
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Bravo for that woman doing her due diligence and seeing the light. Totally respect her for standing up, albeit not using her real name (which I totally support) It’s a shame that an author aspires to become a ‘Jim Jones’ who literally has his followers drink the punch all the while cheating and scamming his way to the top (until Amazon caught wind of it)
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Maria Nevarez said:
S. S. I am part of the group. I was away when this new drama started and not quite sure what hapoened. There are many that do follow him blindly. I do like the ability to speak openly but lately is either too much drama or now tryin to reinstate him in Amazon. If you could reach out and share your findings I will love to see it since as of yet, he is still silent and his friends are reaching out to have people help support him and different ways. You can search my name and see that I am in that and many other book groups. Sorry that you feel afraid. Sometimes it is good to just step away and see the world the way it is.
Hope you find the courage to reach out. I will not share your name and will be a friend if you need one. Some people are really old at manipulating. It takes courage to speak up.
Again, where’s you are ready. I am hear to listen. Not here to shame or shun anyone. That is just wrong.
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Maria, I’m sure S.S. has been watching but I will make sure to forward this message to her as well 🙂 Thank you for this comment. I’m sure it helps her realize there are more who want to know. I think we all can agree that we want what is best for the women in the group.
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So impressed that S.S. had the guts and the where-with-all to speak out. I understand being scared. But you did the right and ethical things. Let’s home your diamond sisters do the same!
Being an author 8s like being a sales person. All sales people push rules to their limits. Chance truly loves his diamonds. I can tell you that having other authors messaging his followers is not an adult thing to do. As for the author of the letter I am truly sorry you feel that way, but chance never told us to call him King diamond. That was what all of us decided to call him. I can say I call him Chance. He is a person. He is human. And he doesnt deserve other authors attacking him. So I am putting on notice that ANY author that does more that just ask for a sim pl le review should be reported for the same thing that everyone is accusing Chance of. So that mean every author I am in groups for which is hundreds of them , i will be watching for give aways, rewards, or anything that could be bribery. People in glass house le shouldn’t throw stones.
Please don’t come on here and “give notice” or threaten anyone. When you comment on an author’s blog it has record of you IP address. I have no issue turning that over to the authorities if you threaten or put anyone on notice. No one is maliciously attacking Chance. The human thing would be for him to admit his mistake without the finger pointing then it would get all cleared up, but instead he’s screaming his innocence, blaming others for his human mistake. I would have the utmost respect for him if he would admit what he did. For one, this letter was NOT written by me. It was written by a woman from the group, and just like you, she deserves to have a voice and opinion. With that said, I’ve seen the comments and statuses. Even though you may call him “Chance” the majority of people do call him King or King Diamond. so the ex-group member wasn’t wrong about this. No where in this blog did it say that HE asked them to do this; it simply states he is called that. I can’t speak for everyone, but the few authors I know that are part of this advocacy has NEVER asked their followers to message the Diamonds, so your claim for being the “adult thing” is mute, So before you go on your reporting spree, there’s a few things you should know. There is a huge difference from offering prizes or rewards in groups than what Chance did. He used LINKS in his book to entice readers(not just group members). It is against the rules to do that. We’re not making these rules, Amazon is, and once his book gets flagged so does his account. When Mr. Diamond got removed, AMAZON started reviewing all his books. So you can blame people but it wasn’t anyone but himself. I’m sure he’s a great guy, and I’m so happy that you feel so comfortable with him.
So, with this all said, let me break this down for you:
I am NOT attacking anyone. Do I agree with anything Chance did? NO.
Offering prizes to their readers as thank you or games, is ETHICAL. Offering prizes for reviews or to entice book sales is NOT. So, you better make sure you have your ducks in a row before reporting. I think you may be confused as to what he did or what is perfectly fine. There was a video in his group where he admitted that the Tiffany prize was NOT right. He still went through with it. He had links IN THE MIDDLE OF THE BOOK. and a number of times in it. AGAIN completely against Amazon rules. It was not offered to his exclusive group. It was open to anyone who bought his book. So again, there’s more of a difference. If he would have had the giveaway in his group ONLY with no trace, Amazon would not have found out. But he was selfish, greedy and went for the big drive in.
If you feel you must report authors for the same thing, that’s morally on you. If you’re part of these author’s group, you’d think you were a fan of theirs. Why would you hurt the authors you love to read just to standby Chance? That makes no sense to me. But you do what you need to do, just know, the difference between what is right and wrong.
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Hey, S.S. I wholeheartedly agree with your letter.
I was recently kicked out of the Diamond FB group for simply agreeing with a fellow diamond and diehard CC fan who posted a question about wanting answers as to why Chance pretty much abandoned the group. A lot of members were attacking that person. She simply wanted to know what was going on. I don’t blame her for asking questions. But everyone was quick to try and silence her and tell her nothing is going on and that all the stuff online are lies. Definitely sounds like cult behavior. I’m pretty sure I was kicked out by the PA, who seems to be one of the big proponents of all this mess when she was telling people how to cheat the system with the page flips, etc.
Every time someone asks a question in that group, members are quick to shut them up and sweep it under the rug. The problem is not going away. I don’t know why they are living in this fantasy world that everything is okay. Everything is NOT okay, and intelligent people like to stay informed.
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